Adversity...it's not if but when Published June 24, 2009 By Chief Master Sgt. Fred Graves 314th Operations Group Loadmaster Functional Manager LITTLE ROCK AIR FORCE BASE, Ark. -- Life often brings with it unforeseen events. Perhaps you've heard the saying "life is what happens when you have other plans". It's easy to appreciate the unexpected change if it's a better job, winning the lotto or a long awaited promotion. However, the unexpected often comes in the form of adversity. Whether the challenge is illness, family crisis, or an on-the job-problem, it's how we respond that ultimately allows us to press on with our lives and our important mission. You know what they say: "It's not what you go through, but how you go through it." Here are three practical tips I have used to overcome adversity: First, don't mentally over exaggerate problems and put things in perspective. Think realistically about what may happen, and what you will do in response. Seek a trusted friend, co-worker or supervisor if you need help. Next, participate in stress-reducing activities that are not self-destructive. Hit the gym, not the bottle. Endorphins really do help your mood. Consider doing something nice for some else. It may help you as much as it helps them. Finally, if the adversity was self inflicted, learn from your mistake, and move on. Who knows, you may be able to someday look back and laugh at your situation. Adversity is a normal aspect of all our lives. There will always be factors beyond your control, but you can always control yourself and your attitude.